It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s at this point in my life—second-semester senior, post-thesis, part-time student, burnt out, uber-queer angst land, etc.—where I think it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s appropriate to reflect and teach others the senior-year lifestyle, or as I like to call it, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153so you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re graduating and are no longer able to give a f**k.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d So yeah:<\/p>\n
1. Attend less class this week than days you consecutively visit bars.<\/strong> 2. When someone asks you what are you doing after graduation, outline EXACTLY what you will be doing everyday:<\/strong> 3. Invite academics to campus and get excited about preparing questions that \u00e2\u20ac\u0153destroy\u00e2\u20ac\u009d them, either:<\/strong> 4. Wear every pattern that you own so that people will know and be visually convinced you are graduating. 5. Get really frustrated when people don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want to hear about your term paper on Deleuzoguattarian metaphysics in conversation with Woolf\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s \u00e2\u20ac\u0153The Waves.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/strong> 6. Say \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcno\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 to everything you can because this is the last chance, at least in my opinion, where you have the privilege to prioritize self-care to the max.<\/strong> 7. Be direct, be open.\u00c2\u00a0<\/strong> 8. Fall in love more often and deeper.<\/strong> It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s at this point in my life—second-semester senior, post-thesis, part-time student, burnt out, uber-queer angst land, etc.—where I think it\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s appropriate to reflect and teach others the senior-year lifestyle, or as I like to call it, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153so you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re graduating and are no longer able to give a f**k.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d So yeah: 1. Attend less class this […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":68,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[622,533,519,405,200,623,534],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5322"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/68"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5322"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5322\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5327,"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5322\/revisions\/5327"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5322"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5322"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/artsatmichigan.umich.edu\/ink\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5322"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nAnd I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not talking about just skipping class (I am, partly) but \u00c2\u00a0look at your schedule and notice that the sheer number of classes you have is dwindling and that the nostalgia for meeting up with friends, lovers, mentors, and those who can pay for you<\/em> is at an all time high. In short, I am now friends with all the bartenders at Savas and I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m more than OK with this.<\/p>\n
\n\u00e2\u20ac\u0153well the day after I plan on having an existential breakdown to be met the next day by getting together for brunch at Sava\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s with my friends (Brian, Audrey, etc.), and then I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m planning on starting \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcHouse of Leaves\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 the following day but maybe \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcParadise Lost?\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 And when people get bored and ask you, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153NO, what are you doing professionally or educationally,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d just reply, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153well, it really needs to be contextualized within my daily routine all summer long because in isolation everything is meaningless.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Basically just be really sassy and blunt with everyone you come into contact with. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s not like you\u00e2\u20ac\u2122re going to see any of these people again possible ever again.<\/p>\n
\ni) call them out for being problematic, or ii) interrogate their methodologies and bash their disciplinary location. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153So I see you use \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcLGBT\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 as the realm of discourse you’re analyzing on a national level, but the evidence you cite blatantly excludes trans* folks, how does their exclusion and your implicit blame onto a highly marginalized community fit into your argument? Don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t you really just mean \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcgay and lesbian\u00e2\u20ac\u2122?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n
\n<\/strong>Look i) hip, ii) hip not in the hipster way or appropriative way but like in the damn cool and stylish way and so so \u00e2\u20ac\u0153out there,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d iii) a little bit out of your mind eccentric, iv) not to be tested, v) ready to leave. There\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s no use in pretending that I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m not COMPLETELY ready to start a \u00e2\u20ac\u0153new chapter\u00e2\u20ac\u009d (chapter 22) of my life that is not located in Michigan.<\/p>\n
\nI\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m at the point where my schooling is something I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m both frustrated and in love with, similar to other folks in my life, and so I talk about it all the time because it is my life. Those that don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t get that don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t always deserve to take up all my time.<\/p>\n
\nMy job lets me say no, my classes let me say no, my friends let me say no. But come a year from now I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ll be in a different community, a different job (that I have to keep in order to live), and a different location. I know that \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcno\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 isn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t always an option, especially in the foreseeable future; so say \u00e2\u20ac\u02dcno\u00e2\u20ac\u2122 and love the time you can self-create.<\/p>\n
\nAfter living life for 21 years, I finally realized that I could be direct with people while not being rude. Saying that you don’t want to be friends isn’t rude, it’s honest on both a time and personal level. Telling someone that you need to talk isn’t a passive aggressive move or a manipulative move, it’s letting someone know you need better communication and that you value both parties to find a time that works for both schedules.<\/p>\n
\nGranted, this is EVERYONE\u00e2\u20ac\u2122S advice for growing older but seriously. Tell everyone you love them. (Ask before you can do any of the following:) Hold on to everyone\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s hand. Hug everyone for minutes not seconds. Kiss everyone you can on the cheek. Start conversations with strangers. In all of the ups and downs that I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122ve been on and through for Ann Arbor I love the space and I love many of the people. And I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m so thankful for my life and the lives of others\/places\/things. I show my gratitude through my love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"